It is often said that the only real winner in a divorce is the lawyer because of the ballooning legal fees in litigated divorces. There are multiple options to choose from when proceeding with a divorce, yet most couples believe they must head straight to court.
The first holiday amid a divorce is always difficult; we often romanticize past experiences, creating a revisionist history during times of crisis or change. This year, try to recognize when you are doing that and instead pivot your thinking into living in the present.
Covid-19 has eradicated the work-life boundary in terms of our physical working location and we must now do the same for our emotional well-being boundaries. Employers must let their people know that they want to help during the hardest times, not just because they are empathetic, but because they have a corporate responsibility to be aware of the risk within their business and to employees.
When a person experiences prolonged stress (work pressures or challenges at home), the prefrontal cortex of the brain becomes inhibited resulting in symptoms such as decreased cognitive function, inability to make decisions, poor information retention and memory, which in a work context accumulates to Billions of dollars of corporate risk.
The main thing that is unique about life crises is that it’s something that you have not been through before, so say you’re getting a divorce, you’ve probably not been through a divorce before so in order to try to tackle that process by yourself it’s going to be much more time consuming every step of the way rather than bringing in somebody like Apiary to help you.
We need to ensure empathy training in our organizations, both in the heart of our HR departments, and amongst our leaders. Let’s all now make a commitment to implementing change, not just talking about the fact that the well-being of our people is now our priority.